Our less attractive qualities - A Euphemism

 

........Because some of you do not take criticism so well. So "our less attractive qualities it is."

It is my first upload this year and I particularly do not feel the need to get back to the pleasantries of wishing you a beautiful new year, considering we are in March.  However, I am extremely glad everyone on here is alive and well. So allow me dive in.

Now Seeing from the tittle this is going to be one of those unpleasant sour uploads.  But as it is, I have the liberty to write whatever I want, so however much a few things sting, we will be just fine.

I will start with happier acceptable things like:

As I have come to learn, our perception of others is absolutely biased. I have met people, that I have “not liked” simply because in the first 5 minutes of meeting them, they spoke too loudly, or walked a certain way, or said something, or because they were wearing something a certain way…..How shallow! To root an opinion about another on such trivial details. Not that they do not matter at all, but that they cannot be a foundation for your perception to hold on for eternity. Interestingly, a few more days of knowing the person and they turn out to be awesome people. As a friend of mine usually says, they turn out to be “good people!”

Allow me acknowledge the fact that we are amazing beings. When one takes the time to put all the preconceptions aside, you realize that we are Strong, Creative, Brilliant Beautiful people. But with a few more days or years of knowing each other, we also come to the realization that we are also incredibly Flawed. Fascinatingly, it is not by the “big” things. No it is by the “tinny” mannerisms that we parade every once in a while. The frustrating traits we have and things we do that should not be acceptable.

I digress a bit, "Frustrating" is the word I used in statement before this. - a euphemism. Because what I should have actually said is that these traits are maddening, exasperating and enraging. /Same Word-Different weights/

Moving Forward,

And do not for a second think that I am exaggerating the matter. Because I am sure we all know one person -or are that person who talks to No end. [Like a train] They can never keep quiet for even a second.

Or that person who never keeps time. [cc: my clansmen & sometimes me] munsasire prizzz. It is so bad guys. You will arrive “not on time” because you know the fellow is always late and they will still be late.

Or that dear person you adore but they are sooo lazy it hurts your heart. Literally.

Now this one gets me to my core: those that are unreliable. As in you cannot depend on them or count on them to come through for you on anything. Even the simplest of things. Who hurt you!

Or that person who is always dishonest. Lies, Lies, and more lies. How hard is it to tell the truth, or let’s cut you some slack, at least something similar to the truth? No one is going to beat you after all. We will just be disappointed. 

Then there is that one person we all collectively agree is rude. Darling we love you but we are also very embarrassed by you and for you.

Now as much as some people are "experts" at doing this all the time, We all have been condescending at some point. Do not deny! I know this one gentleman who I was forced to say hi to, and he outright told me he does not speak to people without a Master’s Degree. I had just finished secondary school. Small small thing but You guys, I caught feelings. 😁😁😁😁  I have never gotten over it. FYI, I still do not have that master’s degree. Now imagine the arrogance all of us carry around because we feel we are “better than others.” Let us be Better 😒😒

And do not get me started on those who feel that they know it all and are always right. Dismissing all others, and their “unimportant” opinions. Mr. please, go live in your bubble! 

I could go on and on naming all the unpleasant things we carry with us but why should I when we clearly know what I am talking about.

Dear good people, let us be guided, we all have our less adorable qualities. That pop up every once in a while. And sometimes we have had concerned loved ones give us constructive feedback about our flaws. Which is btw not the best of things to hear but  I would like to think that none of us (need I add -sane people) are proud of our blemishes. You cannot not beat yourself up. But neither should any of us get comfortable. Because, that anger, the pride, the selfishness, being undependable, being indecisive, being Impatient, being a pessimist- no one likes. Not even you!

Does this make us awful and dreadful? In my opinion, (Because this is my blog) NO! It only makes us imperfect but in every sense still Gracious, Still Extraordinary and exceedingly Remarkable! So we work on being better.